Other mothers who tell you what you are doing is wrong, or are the first to correct your methods, need to back off! It's your child, being it if it is your first child or your second or so on.
You have the power and the right to do what you want and what you feel is right for your child. Always remember what people say to you, be it positive or negative, is their opinions. And you can either take their opinions as advice or you can tell them off.
Now if it is your family, well then you have to kind of sit there and take it. But, I am not saying that you have to take what their saying and run home and do what they suggested. And if it is your first child, be prepared for the unwanted comments on how you are raising your child.
You will always get people telling you what you are doing is wrong but, there will always be some positives hidden behind those negatives. And if you can find the positives you'll be fine.
You just have to do the following:
- Listen to what they have to say
- smile and tell them, "Thank you for your opinion," you can go from there however you wish (you can always tell 'em off after you thank them =] )
- Look at what they are saying towards your style of parenting.
- Either change with their advice or just shrug it off
Some people know when to back off when you are upset and will drop it but others need to be told to back off and drop the subject or else they will just keep upsetting you. Avoid these talks around your children. They do not need the negativity that it can spawn.
So to recap: It's your child, your life. Let others' opinions just roll off your shoulders and don't let it get to you.
haha, I have friends who are exactly like that--the "know it all type?" and when they tell me to do this and that, then I'll reply-is that why your kid end up like a spoiled brat??? :) I have my ways of shutting people up, I know people are entitled to their own opinions, but I got loads too--so they can stick theirs up their bum... :)
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